First Off, You Don’t Need To Get Very Serious“You need not talk about very serious subjects that might make the other person uncomfortable. Simple remarks about how you or the other person is enjoying the space, food, music or the evening can be a good ice breaker. Beginning a conversation by asking questions about their hobbies and interests is inviting, too. It’s important to remember here, though, that you should not get into a monologue or long story-telling, as well as avoid unconscious complaining or challenging the new person,” says Veechi Shahi, a life coach.
The most important thing to remember here is that the best small talk has no hidden agenda or plans – it comes from a space of enjoying the company of new people and learning to share the spirit of human connections.
- Veechi Shahi, Life Coach
All Big, Meaningful Relationships Begin With Small Talk“A genuine smile and open-ended questions go a long way,” says Veechi. If you’re an introvert and find making conversation hard, prepare for it by creating a small talk Top-10 list. The best way to do this is by identifying about five topics you like to talk about and having enough knowledge to hold a conversation on. The other five topics should be on things you don’t know much about but have a genuine interest in learning about. Bring these up as conversation starters and let it flow from there.
Also, Remember That Listening Is An Important ElementThe more attentively you listen, the more you understand the other person’s interests, and you can use that to strike up a conversation. While conversing, even if the topic is not to your interest, never let the other person know that. Showing interest in what the other person is saying goes a long way in building conversations.
Lastly, Don’t Be Afraid Of Lulls In The ConversationBe comfortable and confident. While you might feel awkward when there’s a silence, understand that it’s a normal outcome of any conversation and is better than being seen as a babbling idiot. During this time, give the other person the option to walk away if they wish to, but if they’re keen to continue the conversation then start on a new topic. Ultimately, it’s all a matter of practice and comfort.
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