It’s not easy being single during the wedding season. When you’re surrounded by happy couples and holiday cheer, it can be difficult to be cheerful all the time. But this is exactly when your healthy self-esteem comes in handy.
Explains wellness coach Ramona Mordecai, “A healthy self-esteem and sense of self-worth are key factors in the quality of conversation one attracts in a social atmosphere. Some singles experience a lot of grief because society gives the notion that if you are not in a relationship you have some internal weakness – but this is truly not the case. Each individual has their own process and vision to fulfil and each person is unique, with their own unique journey.”
Adds health and life coach Nipa Asharam, “It’s important to feel good from the inside. Fill your life with immense self-care – great nutrition, workouts, breathing, massages, and cleansing – so that you glow naturally from the inside and outside. When you glow from inside, situations outside will impact you significantly less.”
And while all this is great advice, sometimes you do tend to run into a deadlock when you have to attend a wedding as a singleton. For all those times, keep the following tips handy.
Hang Out in Packs
Always keep an eye out for the person who’s standing alone in a corner or looking like they could use some company. Make this person your wedding BFF and stick around with them during functions. It’ll help you’ll beat boredom (especially during a destination wedding), and keep those pesky relatives at bay.
Be Prepared with Witty Answers
Let’s be honest – you’re at a wedding and you WILL run into your share of nosy aunties, or even an ex. And they WILL ask you uncomfortable questions, which you’d rather just avoid. But since you know this will happen, you should make your peace with it and pre-empt them. Think up some funny, witty answers to their “you’re next” or “when are you getting married?” questions so you’re not caught off-guard.
“If seated around a pushy aunt, steer the conversation towards the decor, the food, or the happy couple,” says Mordecai. “And if the conversation starts getting uncomfortable, excuse yourself to grab a drink or some food. Or change the subject to a neutral topic, such as demonetisation. Everyone will have something to say about it. If all else fails, however, imagine the aunty kissing an octopus – escaping into some funny imagination helps always brings out the humour in the situation.”
As for the ex, click a selfie with him and upload it with the hashtag, #ISurvived.
It’s important to feel good from the inside. Fill your life with immense self-care – great nutrition, workouts, breathing, massages, and cleansing – so that you glow naturally from the inside and outside. When you glow from inside, situations outside will impact you significantly less.
Nipa Asharam, health and life coach.
Don’t Take a Plus One of the Opposite Sex
You might be tempted to take your best friend as a wingman, but taking him along to a place where people don’t know you might be detrimental to your chances of hooking up. People, including the guy/girl you find cute, might think you are together and avoid hanging out with your altogether. If you must take someone along, choose a female friend so you can pass the time yet not throw away any possible chances.
Look Your Best
Go shopping, get a fabulous outfit, and do your beauty regime (manicure, pedicure, facial, blow-dry), so you’re looking your absolute best during the wedding. Not only will this give you the confidence to get through the wedding, but it will also attract that good looker you spotted at the engagement. “Weddings are an opportunity to meet great people, have interesting conversations, and try connect new things, so make a choice to enjoy these things rather than letting fear and insecurity (both of which are not real) take over you,” says Asharam.
Surround Yourself with Positive People
“Be around those who take you higher,” Asharam adds. “They see your beautiful qualities, they believe you are worthy of all the good in life, they love you for who you are and being with them makes you happy. When you have such a strong support system around you, any snide comments that come shooting your way won’t be able to enter the shining circle around you.”
Don’t Be Stuck to the Bar
You don’t want to give the impression of being bored, or worse, being depressed because you’re single. Besides, getting drunk and drawing attention to yourself is probably not the best strategy. Enjoy your drink, but remember to have one glass of water after every glass of alcohol you have.
Meet Your Best (or Most Upbeat) Friend the Day After the Wedding
Let’s face it – you might get the blues right after a wedding, especially when you’re single and dying to meet your significant other. But don’t let the sadness overtake you – pre-empt it. Make a plan with your best friend (or that friend who always keeps you in splits) the day after the wedding so the sad feeling doesn’t creep in.
Have an Exit Strategy
If you’re feeling really bored, uncomfortable or just plain sad, remember that it’s okay to leave early. The bride and groom are probably too busy to even notice that you left before the food was served. Enjoy what you can, meet some new people and leave if you’re not feeling it – don’t guilt yourself into staying longer than you absolutely must.
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