Do you feel upset or depressed about yourself and your abilities more than average? Do you feel you are worthless, useless, good for nothing? If you’ve answered yes to either of these questions then you’re probably running a little low on self-worth. All of us go through this at some point in our lives, but when it becomes a way of living then you’re stuck with a problem. The important thing to realise is that you are your own person – a unique individual with your own peculiar strengths. If you want to be respected and loved, it is very important to accept, respect and love yourself along with all your flaws.
Says life coach Ramona Mordecai, “The issue of worth most often comes up in a social scenario or when a person is in introversion. Most often we find ourselves in situations where we are paying closer attention to what we don’t receive as opposed to what we do receive. The human mind tends to focus on the lack or void. The truth of the matter is that nobody is perfect and that we all lack appreciation in one way or the other. Once you accept this, you will see the worth in others if your heart and mind are open. This will surely build more confidence and worth for yourself.”
While this trick always works, there are a few more you could do with imbibing to boost your self-worth and self-love. Bruno Mars wasn’t wrong – you are amazing just the way you are.
Avoid Negative Self-Talk
Do you feel like you’re full of negative qualities rather than positive ones? This is your own negativity speaking. Make it a practice to look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself how amazing you are. Each day, write down five things you love about yourself or things other people have complimented you on. Start focusing on these positive qualities rather than any perceived negative ones. It’s important to remember that everyone has some negativities, but focusing on the positives is paramount.
Develop a Sense of Gratitude
Gratitude goes a long way and its benefits shouldn’t be underplayed. Think of all the good things you have in life and all the good people you are surrounded with and then make a gratitude list. Whether it’s been that co-worker who got you a cupcake, or the mechanic who smiled at you after completing your work; be thankful for all those experiences that made you feel good.
Fake It Until You Make It
People can sense an insecure person when they see one, which could just add to the person’s insecurities. Even if you do not feel secure or confident, build your body language in such a way that you come across as confident. Don’t slump and avoid crossing your hands in front of your chest. Instead, be open and approachable, have a smile on your face at all times, and talk confidently. The way you carry yourself will go a long way towards making yourself feel good.
Let Go of The Past
Many times, our lack of self-worth comes from an experience that’s mentally traumatised us, which is why it is so important to confront and make peace with it. Your past is your past – you can’t change it. What you can do is accept you made a mistake, forgive yourself for it and move on. Just doing this will give you a surge of confidence and happiness.
Surround Yourself with Positive People
Negative people are bound to bring you down with them. If you have a friend or co-worker who’s always putting you down, it’s bound to rub off on you. Avoid spending too much time with such people and, instead, make friends with positive people who raise you up along with them.
Welcome Bad Times and Face Them Head On
It’s a truly lucky person indeed who does not face any battles in his or her life. 99 percent of people, however, have their own war to fight and demons to slay. Accept that you will go through bad times and don’t blame yourself for them – instead be proactive in finding solutions and overcoming them. The ‘why me, poor me’ attitude isn’t going to take you far. Rather, work on constructive solutions and pull yourself out of sticky situations. This will not only give you confidence but improve your own self-worth.
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